Who are you accountable to? A boss? A co-worker? A spouse or a child? There are a myriad of people, and things, we are accountable to, and for, at any given moment of any day.
Whether it is a deadline that must be met, a meeting we cannot miss or an anniversary or birthday present we must not forget to get, we find ourselves being held accountable all the time. But is that the accountability I want to discuss here? No. Simply, I want to discuss something I have recently come to understand myself; that first and foremost, we must be accountable to ourselves.
We have to take a look in the mirror, and decide if we are happy with ourselves and the decisions we have been making. And if we find we are not entirely happy about everything, why? What about whatever event is it that makes us unhappy? I believe we ultimately are not happy because there isn’t true closure with whatever happened, and this is because we didn’t hold ourselves accountable. I feel this way because I used to blame or hold others accountable for my demises . That way I made it seem in my own mind the situation or its result wasn’t my fault. I am wrong. Wrong. Wrong. And in case I forgot to say it, WRONG!
As I grow and develop my leadership skills, I am realizing just how much about me I really don’t know. And I am coming to understand that before I can truly lead, I need to find that stuff out! Part of the journey I am currently embarking on has already helped me to see that I have been fooling myself. As intelligent as others say I am it is quite obvious to me now that I have been completely ignorant to who I am. But, like they say, in order to help someone, they have to want to help themselves. Whether drugs, alcohol, hoarding or in blaming others, there is an addiction, a habit that has to be changed.
To be a strong leader, one of the qualities I have always touted, was accountability. Now, knowing that accountability starts with me, I can own that trait, and feel confident that by sustaining accountability to myself, I am thriving, and truly developing into someone I can love again.